I've been a busy with life recently and not doing as much blog writing as I would like to so I decided to revisit this blog that I first published in January 2018. I still think $2,000 would have been worth it for her! And, I'll probably be humming Rocky Burnette for the rest of the day!
A Swiss woman was fined $2,000 for reading her cheating husband's emails.
Are you kidding me?! What a bargain!
When I was reading the article published on Seven News, I had the Rocky Burnette tune "Tired of Toein' the Line" ringing in my ears and I couldn't help thinking that was two thousand bucks very well spent!
It's cost many women I know, (and men for that matter), a lot more than $2,000 to finally find for themselves definitive proof for the clarity they needed to make the decision to pull the pin on their marriage.
Back to Rocky for just a minute ... I love music.
It is one of the things that has saved me in moments of sorrow, and it's my go-to for celebrations, after the bubbles of course.
So, with that in mind, when I separated, my friends started sending me songs they thought would pull me through.
Rocky's one hit wonder was on a compilation CD from my dear friend Melissa, back in the day when we actually burnt CDs and sent them in the post.
It was right there in the middle of jaded break-up classics such as "Man Overboard", Do Re Mi.
And the (now outdated) notion purported by the Cruel Sea, "Better get a Lawyer".
On a serious note - because Seven News stories about cheating husbands oddly don't seem that serious - my advice to you is, do not lawyer up with the intention of taking your cheating spouse to the cleaners!
Check out our Split Kit, read my book "The First Steps through Separation and Divorce" and do all you can to prepare your own admin and engage in effective mediation, even if it takes several sessions to make progress before you go into battle with legal representation.
Now, back to the crux of the post ... the woman at the centre of the story had suspected for some time that her husband was having affairs but he'd denied it.
One day, he got lazy and left the password to his private email account scribbled down next to their home computer. She must have had a bit of an attack of the guilts because she apparently Googled whether or not it was illegal to access someone else's email. Curiosity, and I imagine also a sense self-preservation, got the better of her and she went on to read his emails. Turns out, her suspicions were confirmed, in fact, it was worse than she'd originally thought. The wife said in court:
"He'd been in contact with several women for a long time. I confronted him with his affairs and he moved out of our flat relatively quickly."
He came back though, and she was charged and convicted of intentionally and repeatedly hacking her husband's account.
The defence said she hadn't hacked his account because she knew the password. The couple resides in Switzerland where the law states it's illegal to read another person's password protected material. Her initial fine was $11,800 but it was reduced to $2000 as she'd had to "exert minimal criminal energy" due to her "husband's carelessness".
People who've been on the receiving end of lies from a spouse engaging in affairs often say that their partner was so convincing they thought they themselves must have been slightly mad for ever doubting them ... even though they knew in every cell of their body they were being lied to remorselessly.
And for those of you who know that feeling, I offer you the joys of the classic cheesy 80's videos that we thought were absolutely awesome!
Here it is, Rocky Burnette, "Tired of Toein' the Line", performed live on TV with the Countdown Dancers! Who could ask for more?
It comes with a warning, if you're prone to earworms, don't press play or you'll be singing it for days.
If you have decided to end your relationship, you should start to educate yourself. I know the overwhelming feelings of making these decisions and facing your new realities. My book, The First Steps through Separation and Divorce will guide you through the emotional and practical aspects you may need to address in the coming weeks, months and years.
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Published by, Christine Weston
Founding Director and Creator of Divorce Resource
Australian Nationally Accredited Mediator and Divorce Coach
The information in this article may be viewed as cynical in nature and should not be considered as a guideline for how you should behave in the future. You should know that I have come to a place of seeing a lot of humour in the whole situation ... many years on. I can't comment on your personal circumstances but I can vouch for the benefit of using your annual Medicare-sponsored Mental Health Plan visits to professional counsellors. I am so curious to know how many people actually read these disclaimers I put at the bottom of posts. Let me know - facebook or the comments below. :-)
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