Five tips for handling the festive season while going through a separation


The festive season should be a joyous time of year, but it can be a difficult time for some families.

For those parties who have separated, are going through a separation or contemplating separating, here are our five tips for getting through the festive season:

  • You and your partner should reach a mutual agreement about the time the children will spend with each of you on Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, New Year's Eve, New Year's Day in advance of these 'special occasions'. Remember to keep the needs of the children at the forefront of your mind in these discussions and be fair and reasonable when negotiating with your partner.

  • Ensure that any agreement you reach with your partner about the special occasions and the school holiday period is reflected in writing (text message or email).

  • Do not argue or discuss parenting arrangements in the presence or the children. Also, ask your family or friends to not discuss your partner in a negative manner in front of the children. It's easy to get caught up in this trap after a few Christmas drinks but it is important not to negatively influence your children's relationship or opinion of your partner.

  • If you are yet to finalise financial matters, make sure that you budget carefully so that you have enough money to get you through the holiday period. If you still share a bank account, set ground rules for how much you are both allowed to access and spend.

  • Make sure that you surround yourself with family and friends so that you do not feel isolated.

Christmas for separated parents

Author: Selina Nikoloudakis
Mellor Olssen is a South Australian legal firm with a history spanning over 100 years. 

This article has been republished by Divorce Resource with the kind permission of the author.

The content of this article is intended to provide a general guide to the subject matter. Specialist advice should be sought about your specific circumstances.


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